The Fallout Of Extramarital Affairs

There are many reasons why people have affairs. Some have them just because they want to, and there is nothing in the world that could make them remain faithful to anyone. There are others that have them because they want out of a marriage or a long term relationship, but they don’t have the guts to end that relationship as they should. However, there are some that have these extramarital affairs for a different reason all together. They don’t want to get divorced, but they do want to get the attention of their spouse in a huge way.

What most don’t think about before having extramarital affairs to get the attention of their spouse is that it can backfire - big time. The spouse may leave immediately, but that is not what the cheater really wanted. There may be nothing that the cheater can do to get them back. Sometimes they don’t think that will happen, but it does in at least half, if not more, of cases. They also don’t realize that even if the spouse stays and works on the marriage, the damage has been done, and healing time can be substantial.

Extramarital affairs to get the attention of the other spouse may be just emotional affairs, but most don’t realize that these are just as painful as physical affairs. Intimacy and trust has been breached, and that is probably the hardest thing to swallow for the betrayed spouse. Once that third person has been introduced into the marriage, it is very hard to get them out, even when they are physically gone. They ghost of such a person from extramarital affairs can stay around for years. It is not an easy thing to go through, and can kill the best of marriages.

If you are thinking about having extramarital affairs because you want to let your spouse know that you are feeling lonely and left out of the marriage, think twice about doing it. You have no idea how painful this is going to be for them, and how painful it is going to be on you. They may take years to get over this, and they are going to hurt for a long time. Just when you think they are forgetting and moving past extramarital affairs, something triggers the memory and you are back to square one. You will be reminded of what you did for a long time and that is going to hurt you too. Even marriages that seem to be working after such affairs can fail. Find another way to get their attention if you really want to remain in the marriage.